Beauty in disability.

November 4, 2020

Disability is a physical or mental condition that limits a persons movement or senses, or activities.

The disability I’ll be writing on is hear loss

Deafness or hearing loss is usually the result of the inner ear or nerve damage. It may be caused by a congenital defect, injury, disease, certain medication, exposure to loud noise or age-related wear and tear.

With the help of my friend Busola who is an angel in human form, I met Busola in 2015 on instagram, we didn’t start talking properly until last year November when we were going for our orientation Camp.

Hearing loss isn’t something to be taken for granted, it can happen to anyone at any age the worst thing is it happening all of a sudden which is the most common through very loud noise, noise explosion, accidents, diabetics, smoking, shingles, aging e.t.c sign languages should be taught to people.

I decided to write on this and create more awareness.

The Challenges;

Hearing loss has a huge impact on my social life, mental health and work life

In general;
-Trouble hearing what they said.

  • makes me paranoid and insecure

-As a student;

  1. I couldn’t hear in class, had to survive on my own. By collecting notes and using my own sense to understand since no one will explain
  2. Difficult to relate with people as they misunderstand me a lot
  3. People were so negative

Life;

  1. I get called a rude jerk simply because I didn’t hear
  2. It’s hard to order Uber
  3. I can’t communicate with random strangers for fear of being ridiculed, thus the social withdrawal. Social interactions is tough.
  4. It causes low self esteem and my confidence isn’t so good. Thus, making me so depressed
  5. Can’t speak well due to not hearing pronunciations well.
  6. Can’t use telephone calls

Health;

  1. It causes headache sometimes and make me sick(Benign paroxysmal positional vertigo)

Work place;

  1. Job is hard to find as there’s wild discrimination.
  2. Miscommunication at where I previously worked
  3. Ignored and treated like I didn’t have a disability

Living with it is like a bittersweet experience.
It has its own challenges and it has its own sweet side.

I don’t really need to say much but people can try to be more understanding and be patient to talk to us. Always face us no matter what and stop shouting.
We are human and we are asking to be treated delicately not differently.

The positive side;

– Lmao when someone is shouting at me or saying things I don’t want to hear, I intentionally shut it off.

There’s beauty in my disability. It’s not meant to be discriminated against or ridiculed.
I do not see people wearing glasses being discriminated, so why should we?
Eye glasses is seen as a beautiful thing but rather hearing aids has been too hidden to avoid people staring.
Hearing aids is beautiful and I’m always happy to show people how it works but never wishing it on them.

People can help with accepting that hearing disability is real. The more they are open about it, the easier it is to communicate better. The more they are supportive, people wouldn’t have to hide their hearing disability.

It’s a part of us and I look forward to a world where there would be less discrimination and the deaf community would be understood more.

Don’t forget, there’s beauty in disability.

Busola has a YouTube channel where she talks on her life basically and creating awareness on hearing disability it’s fun and informative.

Link to Busola’s channel Time out with Bubu please check it out, subscribe, like and comment.

Let her know you’re from me too

Busola’s InstagramBusola

Thank you so much Busola for your time and patience, it was really amazing writing and working with you. I love you and I’m always here for you. Being your friend has been a blessing, I pray it does get better for you in every way possible.

Thank you so much for reading,

Please make comments too.

Eyilayo 🍫✨

32 Comments

  1. Kennie

    November 4. 2020

    This is incredible. Got me glued till the end.

  2. Anonymous

    November 4. 2020

    thisss🥺🥺

  3. Dedayo

    November 4. 2020

    thank you for sharing 🥺

    • Eyilayomi

      November 5. 2020

      Thank you Adedayo ❤️

  4. Anonymous

    November 4. 2020

    Thank you so much for sharing, such an awesome story

    • Eyilayomi

      November 5. 2020

      Thank you for reading ❤️

    • Temitope Ogundele

      December 11. 2020

      This was a beautiful post. Thank you Busola for sharing this with us and thank you eyi for using your platform to bring awareness to this important topic❤️

      • Eyilayomi

        December 11. 2020

        Thank you Temitope for reading ❤️

  5. Anonymous

    November 4. 2020

    Such a nice story cos I smiled through out

  6. Anonymous

    November 4. 2020

    Thank for this sweet message🥺

    • Eyilayomi

      November 5. 2020

      Thank you for reading✨

  7. Assumpta

    November 4. 2020

    This piece made me happy. I love the way you use your platform so much. You are inspiring

    • Eyilayomi

      November 5. 2020

      Awww, thank you so much SumSum❤️❤️❤️❤️

  8. Anonymous

    November 4. 2020

    This is amazing ngl🥺❤️

  9. Anonymous

    November 5. 2020

    🥺🥺

  10. Aanu

    November 5. 2020

    This is so beautiful, I’m so happy she has a friend like you. There’s so much good energy to go around

    • Eyilayomi

      November 6. 2020

      Thank you Queen, thankful for you ❤️

  11. Anonymous

    November 5. 2020

    Beautiful. Incredible! ❤️

  12. Isaac

    November 5. 2020

    Incredible

  13. Anonymous

    November 8. 2020

    This is very beautiful 🥺
    I loved every bit of this post

    • Eyilayomi

      November 8. 2020

      Thank you so much 🥺❤️

  14. salaudeen qazim

    November 10. 2020

    Wow. I particularly know how it feels cause I once had a surgery on my ears, I know how it feels being ignored and been taken as if you don’t even exist. Thank you so much Eyilayomi. You are really a joy to all of that read your blog and those that know you physically too.😍😘

    • Eyilayomi

      November 10. 2020

      Oh wow, It must have been something, sighs feels horrible, I’m glad you’re a lot better now.
      Aww you’re the sweetest so blessed to have you in my life.❤️

  15. Anonymous

    November 25. 2020

    There’s just something about how you write it’s really beautiful

    • Eyilayomi

      November 25. 2020

      Busola and I wrote this btw but thank you ❤️

  16. Super_gecko

    December 31. 2020

    Why didn’t I see this write up before… I have a lot of friends with disabilities, and I have never for once seen them as disabled people.. to me they are human first.. I have a friend junior who is totally deaf from birth.. and we gist and gossip a lot.. and I do understand him.. whenever we are communicating, people think I am deaf too.. oh he is a very good footballer.. plays number 9 and 7 well.. also femi femi went blind 2 years after I knew him.. due to glaucoma.. he was incubated at birth and it affected his eyes but he is one of the funniest person I know.. I can’t mention them all.. Eyilayo you re doing well and i am proud of you.. this one is just different and I love it

    • Eyilayomi

      December 31. 2020

      Your comments always means a lot to me.
      I have met a lot of people with disabilities and most times I forget they even have a disability.
      People are people, people with disabilities shouldn’t be treated less.
      You’re such an awesome friend.
      Thank youuuuuuuu, so much ❤️

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