I won’t even want to talk about not being consistent again since I have said it before but then, this is my second blog post this month so there’s progress🎉
My weight gain struggle, most times when I see a post about weight gain, it’s always when they have actually achieved what they wanted but mine is a different case cause I’m still here pushing
Gaining weight has been something I have always wanted, earlier this year it was even part of the things I told myself I’d do, I already even made a list of the kind of food to take and all that but then I became tired/lazy, I was in school again, schooling in Nigeria isn’t even a place for you to gain weight, there’s so much stress, where is even the time? it wouldn’t even have worked, so I postponed it. I think eating and not gaining weight is both a blessing and a curse depending on how you want to see it. You’ll meet different kinds of people in this world, some people can just be unnecessarily rude and mean. The annoying thing is when people make hurtful jokes about your body and all, like it’s something you can control. Here I am trying to love my body and all that and someone comes ” ahanh don’t you eat?” ”Why are you so slim?” “are you sure you’re okay like this” “you’re so tiny” “I can carry you with one hand” A number of times the first thing people see is how you look, so before you can even say anything they are already using your stature to judge you, this happens to me a lot and so to be taken seriously I have to talk in a certain way, just to sound like an actual adult, most people would see it as being bossy or rude.
Ileana D’ Cruz once said,” You are a human being and allowed to be imperfect, and you’re allowed to be flawed, There is a lot of beauty in your imperfections” – that’s what makes you unique.
There are certain things you don’t say to people especially when it’s on things they cannot change about themselves immediately, most people don’t even see it as being rude. When I meet people like that I just feel they are trying to rub their insecurities on me, if you have an issue with somebody’s body you can mind your business or if you feel you must have an opinion, at least say it in a polite way. It’s something I’m so used too but that doesn’t mean cause I’m used to it, it’s something I like or I’ll allow to continue.
Here are a few things to note.
Love yourself, once you love yourself there’s really nothing anybody can tell you that would get to you, the flaws, the imperfections, you should love yourself and everything that comes with it, that’s even the most important thing, it’s not something that just happens but it’s a progress and you’ll get there.✨
Eat more, this even sounds like fun, eating sometimes is a struggle for me🤦🏾♀️ some days I eat a whole lot and other days, I don’t even feel like eating. Just watch what you eat, you could also check Youtube or see a doctor, so with that you can plan your own timetable so you know what works for you, you don’t have to force yourself to eat more than what your body can take, you can take breaks, this even helps a lot. Consistency also helps
Avoid Stress, it is very annoying gaining calories and losing them because of doing tiring and exhausting stuff.
Rest more, this is also very important, most times we work so much or we stay up late that we forget the body needs rest.
There was this movie I watched the woman was so insecure about her body, she met someone who loved her and all, but her insecurities had the best of her, to the man she was perfect but what he wanted most was her happiness, so he told her ”you cannot keep sobbing around, if you feel you need to make changes on your body you should, we would go to gym” she took the offer and she loved the outcome. We can actually get the kind of body we want if we actually work towards it. I’m writing like I’m speaking from experience, probably one day soon who knows 🤷♀️🏾 I’ll come and write on how I have achieved it, we move anyways.